Confidence is a tricky thing; part learned skill, part mindset, and part sheer force of will. In Collecting Confidence, Kim Gravel aims to offer readers a roadmap to building self-assurance through personal anecdotes and hard-earned wisdom. The book presents itself as an inspiring guide to self-belief, but for me, it fell short in a few key ways.
Gravel is undoubtedly an engaging storyteller. Her Southern charm and candid reflections make for easy listening (I read the audible version), and some of her experiences, especially those tied to resilience and personal growth, are relatable. She also emphasizes that confidence isn’t about having all the answers but about stepping forward anyway, which is a message many people need to hear.
Additionally, the book’s structure, framed around collecting lessons over time rather than achieving instant self-assurance, is a refreshing take. It acknowledges that confidence is an evolving process, which aligns with real-world experience.
For a book promising actionable confidence-building strategies, I found Collecting Confidence too heavy on personal anecdotes and too light on practical takeaways. Many of Gravel’s stories, while engaging, felt more like a memoir than a structured self-improvement guide. If you’re looking for a deeper dive into the psychology of confidence or research-backed strategies, this book isn’t the one for you.
This book is very heavy on faith-based messaging. While that’s certainly an authentic part of Gravel’s perspective, it was woven into the book in a way that felt less like a universal lesson and more like a directive. As someone who doesn’t share her faith-based approach, I found it difficult to connect with the book’s core message in the way I’d hoped. Rather than presenting confidence as something anyone can build through mindset shifts and action, it often leaned into the idea of divine timing and trusting in God’s plan.
If you enjoy books that blend personal storytelling with inspiration, especially from an author with a strong faith perspective, Collecting Confidence might resonate with you. But if you’re looking for a more structured, research-backed approach to confidence-building, you might find yourself wishing for something more substantial.
Ultimately, while I appreciate Gravel’s sincerity and storytelling ability, the book didn’t quite hit the mark for me. Confidence is something we all have to collect in our own way, and for my journey, I prefer insights grounded in psychology, actionable strategies, and broader applicability.
Would love to hear from you! Did Collecting Confidence work for you? If so, what were your key takeaways?
Rosemarie L. Cordell 